yeseyes
07-09-2007, 08:41 AM
Men think positive when they say anything to their female partners. However, it is important for them to use the right word at the right time. There are things that a man should never tell a woman.
"Relax"
It is legitimate to say this to a woman who has lost her nerves. However, this suggestion may sound like you are faulting her of being loony. Instead, try being sympathetic, and say "Let's deal with it together."
"I love you" (during a fight)
In real life, I think a woman hears these words the most, during an argument when she desperately wants to get to the heart of the matter. However, say these words at the end, just not at the beginning of a fight.
"You could stand to lose a little weight."
Most men get stabbed by this issue. A woman and her weight are not to be taken lightly.
"Yes, right now, the football game/internet is more important than you."
Every man knows how to do this because every man is forced to learn early with mom. Just smile, nod, and try your best to remember what the hell she just said before you utter these words.
"My family hates you"
There are things that a man should never tell a woman.
You will only fuel the fire by making her angry or insecure. If you don't agree with your family's hesitations about her, do what you can to make them change their minds and hope they will warm up to her with time.
"I have insecurities"
One of the most important things a woman looks in a man is confidence. If you can't stop your insecurities and your green eyed monster, try to keep it to yourself.
"I have many girlfriends"
She need not hear the list of women that you flirted with all day. If it is harmless flirting, then why make her worry about it.
"You compare her to your ex-girlfriend in bed"
You may be telling her that she is better than your ex. No woman wants to be compared to another woman.
"You talk to your mother too often"
A women doesn't want to feel like she is competing with your mother.
"I don't like Your girlfriends"
Her girlfriends have been in her life longer than you have been in her life. So while talking negative about them she is sure to be defensive and angry about this.
"I have done shameful things in the past"
The two of you are close enough to reveal these things. Even if you get these secrets out of your mind, she will never forget them. You could be considered a man of less moral.
"I find one of your friends smoking hot"
Her friend is cute/pretty. It would be fair enough not to mention this to your girlfriend. She will be angry and hurt. She will never trust you around her friends. You might think that your girl friend is secure enough to handle this piece of information, but she is not. Most girls aren't so don't risk.
"Relax"
It is legitimate to say this to a woman who has lost her nerves. However, this suggestion may sound like you are faulting her of being loony. Instead, try being sympathetic, and say "Let's deal with it together."
"I love you" (during a fight)
In real life, I think a woman hears these words the most, during an argument when she desperately wants to get to the heart of the matter. However, say these words at the end, just not at the beginning of a fight.
"You could stand to lose a little weight."
Most men get stabbed by this issue. A woman and her weight are not to be taken lightly.
"Yes, right now, the football game/internet is more important than you."
Every man knows how to do this because every man is forced to learn early with mom. Just smile, nod, and try your best to remember what the hell she just said before you utter these words.
"My family hates you"
There are things that a man should never tell a woman.
You will only fuel the fire by making her angry or insecure. If you don't agree with your family's hesitations about her, do what you can to make them change their minds and hope they will warm up to her with time.
"I have insecurities"
One of the most important things a woman looks in a man is confidence. If you can't stop your insecurities and your green eyed monster, try to keep it to yourself.
"I have many girlfriends"
She need not hear the list of women that you flirted with all day. If it is harmless flirting, then why make her worry about it.
"You compare her to your ex-girlfriend in bed"
You may be telling her that she is better than your ex. No woman wants to be compared to another woman.
"You talk to your mother too often"
A women doesn't want to feel like she is competing with your mother.
"I don't like Your girlfriends"
Her girlfriends have been in her life longer than you have been in her life. So while talking negative about them she is sure to be defensive and angry about this.
"I have done shameful things in the past"
The two of you are close enough to reveal these things. Even if you get these secrets out of your mind, she will never forget them. You could be considered a man of less moral.
"I find one of your friends smoking hot"
Her friend is cute/pretty. It would be fair enough not to mention this to your girlfriend. She will be angry and hurt. She will never trust you around her friends. You might think that your girl friend is secure enough to handle this piece of information, but she is not. Most girls aren't so don't risk.